Recall the feeling of everything around you spiraling downward and out of control. Nothing you said or did seemed to make any difference. Met with animosity and indifference, life seemed to be in constant conflict every day. The feeling is real, someone you love is at odds with you, your heart aches, your head throbs and you want to do something to make a difference.

You’re heart broken and can’t stand another day of it. Whether you’re trying to find peace with someone you’re still with or trying to bring an ex back, you’ll find a few things very helpful in the process. The steps are simple and once you realize what they are and implement them you will begin to experience positive change with every day. Begin every day by expressing gratitude for all that you have in your life.

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Look around you, find whatever it is that you’re grateful for and allow yourself to feel grateful. Breathe deeply and feel alive, enjoy your health and ability to wake up, stretch and begin your day fresh. You have all day to make it an exceptional one regardless of your circumstances.

Take care of your physical self. One certain way to feel depressed and low energy is to neglect regular exercise or reasonable eating habits.

Eat fresh and healthful foods, foods and drinks that provide nutrition and energy. What is it that caused the break up or the conflict in your relationship? What could you have done or could you do to change things? Begin to make changes in your routines, thoughts or actions that will bring you back in to alignment with living in peace and joy.

Indulge yourself; just don’t get too carried away! Take time to treat yourself to anything that you enjoy. It could be a favorite food or delicacy; it could be an activity that has been neglected. Focus on who you want to be and what you want your life experience to include.

This is the beginning of the process to begin feeling whole again as the person you desire to be. Once you have taken these steps you become more attractive to those around you, especially the one you wish to save your marriage with or improve your relationship and avoid a breakup. The best news is that these changes can literally take place overnight. Be diligent and persistent in your efforts and be sure that all of these things remain a part of your normal routine. This is your foundation for healing your broken heart and saving your relationship now.

Heal Your Broken Heart, Save Your Marriage

Building a strong love marriage relationship is an art. But there are 3 simple-to-remember relationship tips that can ease you both along the pathway to a lifetime of married love, passion and romance.

1. The commitment to love

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In getting married, you agree to love one another through thick and thin. But most of us have been fooled into thinking that love is something that we experience and feel rather than something we do. Start to reframe your understanding of what love is. Love in marriage is a verb. You have to work at it. Your commitment is your promise to work at it, throughout your married life. The couples who both work at creating love throughout their married life, get to experience the rewards of an ongoing, blissful love marriage relationship.

2. Marriage is a self-improvement project

Marriage is the start line not the finish line. You thought you could give up and veg out once you’ve landed that big fish husband of yours? You think you can slob around now you’ve got a ring on that gorgeous girl’s finger? Perish the thought! Carry with you the intention to do better today than you did yesterday. Improve upon the way you interact with your life partner. Keep things fresh. If you mess up, admit it, apologise and loosen up enough to try something new. Take advice from your partner. Be flexible enough to change, to grow and to become something bigger and better than you were before. Keep yourselves healthy and smart. Self-improvement is incredibly attractive and a sure way to keep the fires of passion blazing in your love marriage relationship.

3. The honest mind

Don’t be one of those nitwits who think that valuing ‘honesty’ in a marriage gives them a license to be blunt and cruel. In love marriage relationships, honesty is a willingness to look at yourself and your actions and see where you might be being pig-headed. It means looking at your relationship with a clear head. Examining your soul to see how you can create a better life experience for both of you. It also means communicating clearly with one another. So many marriages founder because of simple misunderstandings. Develop the ability to look honestly at yourself, develop the responsibility to create positive changes, and be willing to reveal and communicate what you find with your partner. Such acts of intimacy forge powerful lasting bonds.

Follow in the footsteps of the joyful

Your love marriage relationship is unique. But you will experience similar challenges to every other married couple. Why not shortcut your learning curve and learn from those who are already living successful married lives? Michael Webb took the trouble to interview married couples who fell into the top 1% of those with happy, successful marriages and got them to reveal their strategies for long-lasting married love, romance and passion in The 50 Secrets to Blissful Relationships.

It’s always so much easier to learn from experienced mentors who’ve already charted a course through the choppy waters of life. And if you want to guarantee your love marriage relationship grows from strength to strength, be sure to check out that resource. Meanwhile, use the relationship tips above to steer your marriage towards joy, passion and intimacy which will last a lifetime. I wish you great happiness and love in all your moments together.

Copyright 2007 Anne Amore

The Marriage Relationship – 3 Foundation Stones To Building A Lasting Love Marriage Relationship

There are many different things that can be of help for unhappy marriage.

First, and by far, the most important thing for partners in unhappy marriage is communication. Real communication enables you to overcome any family problems you come in contact with. It enables you to build a happy marriage. Good communication opens an enormous number of ways to save unhappy marriage.

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Don’t be looking for things that you can get annoyed about. Don’t get angry about any annoyances that you may be facing during the day. Make sure your partner can easily express their own opinion. Listen to what they say. It’s normal for another person to have a different opinion.

Don’t assume you are friends. Very few couples are actually friends. Amazingly, marriage is not about friendship. Understanding that fact could be of help for an unhappy marriage.

Don’t be egoistic. Think about your partner. Think about what it is that you can do to make their life better. Don’t think about yourself at all. Think about you both as a single unit.

Try and find compromises. Be prepared for compromises from the day one of marriage. Sometimes it may be painful, but this is what is really going to help an unhappy marriage. If you did something wrong, admit it. If you partner did something wrong, you don’t necessary have to even say it. But if you do choose to say, be as polite as possible.

Remember it’s not only you who has an unhappy marriage. You both have it, and your partner also wants a happy marriage. Nobody likes to be unhappy. It is a good starting point – to realize that you both want to be happy.

Help for unhappy marriage can also be assumed to come from some third party, but remember, a happy marriage is only about you two: yourself and your partner.

Help For an Unhappy Marriage That Works

Foreigners visiting Thailand almost always fall in love not only with the natural beauty of this tropical paradise but also with the beautiful and friendly faces of its locals.  As such, it is no surprise that marriages between Thai nationals and foreigners have become a common occurrence in this Land of Smiles.  The growing increase in the number of queries on Thai marriage registration in the World Wide Web virtually matches up the number of culturally diverse couples lining up in the District Offices of Thailand to declare their respective I do’s.  However, with the increase in Thai-Foreigner marriages come also property issues peculiar to this type of union.

In this age of pragmatism, it cannot be denied that some marriages are entered into with a not so romantic and sentimental reason. For some, marriage may be viewed as a direct insurance to long term stay in Thailand or a sure fire way of circumventing prohibitions on land ownership in the Kingdom. Unfortunately however, these reasons are pretty much misplaced conjectures. 

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Marriage between a foreigner and a Thai national does not automatically entitle the foreigner spouse an unlimited period of stay in Thailand.    At most, it only renders the foreigner spouse eligible for a marriage visa. Most importantly, marriage to a Thai national does not entitle the foreigner spouse to directly and personally own a piece of land in this tropical dreamland. In fact, when a married couple with a foreigner spouse buys a piece of land, Thai laws expressly require that the foreigner spouse sign a declaration stating that he/she does not have future rights over the property and that all funds used in the transaction belong wholly to the Thai spouse.  

Another controversial issue respecting marriages, which is almost Shakespearean in substance, is the almost guilty murmurings of to prenup or not to prenup. Prenuptial Agreement in Thailand although practically a must do preliminary in marriage, is viewed with much wariness and skepticism.   This attitude towards pre-nups is primarily because of the belief that it reduces the otherwise sacrosanct sacrament of marriage into a mere sensible practicality of contract.    However, sentiments aside, prenuptial agreements are a necessary instrument that couples can use to protect their hard earned assets and to further define a sound structure that will govern the rights and obligations of spouses respecting future investments, earnings and liabilities. Moreover, it can also determine the potential division of assets should the marriage be later dissolved by reason of divorce or death. It is worth stressing that Prenuptial Agreements must conform to the Civil and Commercial Code in Thailand. 

Matrimony is indeed a momentous and life changing occasion. Like any other endeavor of great consequence, it is imperative that it be given utmost thought and preparation. It is important to seek counsel from registered and reputable lawyer, attorney or solicitor familiar with the laws in your home country and in Thailand before preparing a prenuptial agreement with a Thai national fiancé.

Thai Marriage – Implications on Property Rights

We just celebrated our 20th anniversary this past weekend and we are already looking forward for the next 20 years. I admit our marriage was not happy days everyday of the week. It was not a walk in the park. In fact there were days that we were not speaking to each other for weeks at a time, of course we always worked things out. A good lasting marriage is a work in progress; yes it takes work hard work.

A good start helps especially when the romance wears off which is about after a month of being married. So what is a good start? It is starting with a commitment, a solid commitment to each other. You are committing to getting married to each other and committed to make it work. This may come to you as a big surprise but love alone will not make a marriage last.

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Love is a feeling and our feelings can change from moment to moment, day to day and over time depending on what is going on that day in our life. So if you have a solid commitment in place from the beginning, which is the foundation of a good solid marriage, it will withstand the bad days.

Like a house, if it is built on a weak foundation when a strong wind blows it will fall over and collapse. Imagine if a hurricane or a tornado blew in, that house would be wiped out in a flash. You got to start a good marriage with a solid foundation.

Of course people get married because they really, really love each other, but if they get married only for that reason alone watch out. You really do not know what the marriage is built on. Those are like the Vegas drive thru weddings that people do on a whim during a hot wild weekend. Many times by Monday when the booze and the heat wears off they think boy what was I thinking and get a drive thru divorce.

Now days people easily fall in love and just as easily fall out of love. Funny how argument that lead to divorce can be over trivial things like which dinning room set should we get, or should we get this dinning room set versus that big screen TV. Or who takes out the garbage or who cleans the yard. Minor stuff.

Today getting married is taken lightly. If things do not go as they thought it should people quickly walk away and get a divorce. Next. This is not good as it cheapens the institution of marriage and this not to take into account the hurt that goes on between the couple, the parents, relatives and friends, especially the pain and suffering of the children if any, that can last a life time.

As you can see there are more people involved in a marriage than just the couple. Getting married should be taken seriously and at least thought about and talked about well in advance. Couples should take the time to really know each other and know what each other expects of the marriage. That is where communication comes in.

Do not get me wrong, love is what brings couples together in the first place. But it will take more than love especially after the glow dies down. Start your marriage on a solid foundation and it will survive the storms. You can be sure that storms will come but they will also pass. Can your marriage survive it that is the question?

Are you looking forward for your first 20 years? Life is short so make the most of it. Remember a lasting marriage takes work. Love and kisses are great but a commitment is the glue that will hold your marriage together in the long run, especially in times of bad weather.

What Makes a Marriage Last?

Do you know how sometimes in a marriage you make communication mistakes and end up hurting them? Read on to discover four things that I learned from a wedding cake fiasco that helped me build a better relationship with my husband.

A Cake Top Experience

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It is traditional for a bride and groom to save the top of their wedding cake to eat on their first anniversary. Of course, after sitting in the freezer for a year, the cake is dried out and no longer a delectable dessert.

When my husband, Jeff, and I got married, I decided there was no point in saving the cake top since it would be stale by our first anniversary. So, I told my mother to take it home and eat it. The only problem with this was that I never discussed it with Jeff.

He was quite shocked when he discovered that I had given it away without asking him. He was looking forward to reminiscing about our wedding as we ate the cake, regardless of how tasteless it had become.

There are several marriage lessons that I learned from this wedding cake fiasco:

1. In a Marriage, Two People Need to Learn to Function as One

This was an eye opening experience for me. When I was single, my decisions only affected me.

Now as a wife, even the smallest decisions I made also affected my husband.

2. Communication

I am not a mind reader; I never realized that giving away the cake top would bother Jeff. I made this mistake by failing to communicate with him. All I had to do was to ask him if he cared about keeping the cake. I would have found out that this tradition was important to him

3. Romance Builds Memories and Emotional Intimacy

For Jeff, the cake itself was not important. It was a way to relive a romantic memory. Later, I learned the romantic power of reminiscing to enhance emotional bonding in a relationship.

4. Love is Thoughtful

Love is thinking about the other person before thinking about yourself. I was not being thoughtful of Jeff when I gave away the wedding cake.

5. Forgiveness Moves Us Beyond the Past

Fortunately, Jeff was quick to forgive me for this transgression. In spite of his disappointment, he never held this against me. This could have become a sore spot in our marriage that festered and erupted periodically causing great pain and discomfort. Instead, we were able to laugh about it and move forward.

Moving Forward

Many times life lessons are difficult ones to learn. The cake had already been eaten. I could not go back and undo the past, but my marriage was stronger for the lessons that I learned.

Marriage and Relationship Advice – 5 Marriage Lessons I Learned From a Wedding Cake Fiasco