Do you know how sometimes in a marriage you make communication mistakes and end up hurting them? Read on to discover four things that I learned from a wedding cake fiasco that helped me build a better relationship with my husband.

A Cake Top Experience

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It is traditional for a bride and groom to save the top of their wedding cake to eat on their first anniversary. Of course, after sitting in the freezer for a year, the cake is dried out and no longer a delectable dessert.

When my husband, Jeff, and I got married, I decided there was no point in saving the cake top since it would be stale by our first anniversary. So, I told my mother to take it home and eat it. The only problem with this was that I never discussed it with Jeff.

He was quite shocked when he discovered that I had given it away without asking him. He was looking forward to reminiscing about our wedding as we ate the cake, regardless of how tasteless it had become.

There are several marriage lessons that I learned from this wedding cake fiasco:

1. In a Marriage, Two People Need to Learn to Function as One

This was an eye opening experience for me. When I was single, my decisions only affected me.

Now as a wife, even the smallest decisions I made also affected my husband.

2. Communication

I am not a mind reader; I never realized that giving away the cake top would bother Jeff. I made this mistake by failing to communicate with him. All I had to do was to ask him if he cared about keeping the cake. I would have found out that this tradition was important to him

3. Romance Builds Memories and Emotional Intimacy

For Jeff, the cake itself was not important. It was a way to relive a romantic memory. Later, I learned the romantic power of reminiscing to enhance emotional bonding in a relationship.

4. Love is Thoughtful

Love is thinking about the other person before thinking about yourself. I was not being thoughtful of Jeff when I gave away the wedding cake.

5. Forgiveness Moves Us Beyond the Past

Fortunately, Jeff was quick to forgive me for this transgression. In spite of his disappointment, he never held this against me. This could have become a sore spot in our marriage that festered and erupted periodically causing great pain and discomfort. Instead, we were able to laugh about it and move forward.

Moving Forward

Many times life lessons are difficult ones to learn. The cake had already been eaten. I could not go back and undo the past, but my marriage was stronger for the lessons that I learned.

Marriage and Relationship Advice – 5 Marriage Lessons I Learned From a Wedding Cake Fiasco

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